Seeking peace with sister 여동생과 사이가 좋아지기를

Dear Annie: It's been five years since I last spoke to my younger sister. We were never the picture-perfect siblings, but there was a time when we were close -- inside jokes, late-night talks, supporting each other through breakups and heartbreaks. But as adults, something shifted. She became sharp-tongued, dismissive and increasingly hurtful. I often felt like I was walking on eggshells around her, trying to avoid the next jab or judgment. The final straw came during a holiday gathering when sh

Rough Edges, Real Love 거칠어보일지라도 진정한 사랑입니다

Dear Annie: I am a 26-year-old woman deeply in love with someone my parents can't stand. He's not what they envisioned for me; he's rough around the edges, has tattoos, rides a motorcycle and works with his hands for a living. My parents like clean-cut, college-educated types in suits, and he's the complete opposite. Yes, he has a bit of a "bad boy" past. He's made some mistakes in his younger years -- got into trouble, partied too hard, even had a brush with the law. But that was years ago. Sin

Grandparenting without rivalry 경쟁하지 않으면서 조부모 노릇하기

Dear Annie: I'm a mom to a wonderful adult daughter, and we've always had a close bond. We live in the same neighborhood, and our grandkids can walk over to our house anytime. We spend a lot of time together as a family, and I cherish being a regular part of their lives. My daughter's mother-in-law used to live out of state and only visited a handful of times a year. When we were all at the same gatherings, my husband and I would intentionally leave after a reasonable time so she could enjoy bei

Staying together for the kids 아이들을 위해서 결혼을 유지하는 것

Dear Annie: I'm at a crossroads in my marriage, and I don't know what to do. My husband and I barely talk anymore unless it's about the kids or logistics. There's no connection, no affection -- just a quiet tension that lingers in the background of everything. We've tried counseling, and while it helped us communicate better for a while, nothing has really changed. I've thought about divorce more times than I can count, but every time I get close to making a decision, I freeze -- because our chi

When to Hold On, When to Move On 버텨야 할 때, 떠나야 할 때

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for 10. We've always had what I believed was a stable, loving relationship. In all that time, we've only had a handful of arguments -- certainly nothing major or frequent. But recently, during a heated disagreement, he said something that completely shattered me. In the middle of our fight, he looked at me and said, "The last 10 years have been a miserable marriage." I was stunned. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. It

Love, Loss 애정 그리고 상실

Dear Annie: I formed a close bond with my former daughter-in-law when she married my son. Even after their divorce -- due to his addiction and abuse -- she and the kids lived with us for a while, and we remained close. Over the years, I supported her through abusive relationships, helped care for the children and was always there when she needed help. But things changed. She became secretive, and the children started telling me troubling things -- being left alone for days, going hungry, being t

Toxic Family Ties 해로운 가족 관계

Dear Annie: My partner's mother constantly demands attention, and everything revolves around her. Whenever we're busy or focused on other things, she lashes out -- often hurting those around her, including her grandchildren. She plays favorites, manipulates situations to her advantage and pulls the extended family into her drama. If anyone refuses to engage, they become a target, too. I've tried addressing this directly. Despite multiple attempts to keep the peace, she's tried to bribe her son t

Invisible at the Office 직장에서의 투명인간 취급

Dear Annie: I'm struggling with something at work that's starting to affect not just my motivation but also my self-worth. My boss has taken credit for my work on several occasions. These aren't minor tasks; I'm talking about full-scale projects I've managed from start to finish, ideas I've brainstormed and developed, and presentations I've poured hours into. In team meetings or when speaking to senior leadership, he presents my work as his own, with no mention of my involvement. And I'm left si

Lost Sleep 잠을 잘 수 없어요

Dear Annie: I'm at my wits' end, and I don't know what to do anymore. My neighbor's dog barks constantly. I'm not exaggerating; this dog barks from early in the morning until late at night. Sometimes it's a sharp, frantic bark every few seconds. Other times, it's a low, rhythmic bark that just goes on and on. It happens whether someone's outside or not. Rain, snow, sunshine -- he barks. I've started tracking it out of desperation, and some days it's eight to 10 hours of near-constant noise. I've

Making Peace Without Answers 대답을 듣지 못한 채로 받아들이기

Dear Annie: My husband hasn't heard a word from his mother in over 20 years -- not even after the deaths of two of her sons. She's now 94, and we recently heard she's still alive, still isolated, and still unwilling to speak to him or anyone else in the family. It breaks my heart. I remember the early years of our marriage -- sending her birthday cards from our kids, calling on holidays, even driving hours just to drop off a homemade pie and say hello. Sometimes she'd answer the door, sometimes

Backburner 밀려난 신세

Dear Annie: I've been dating a man who isn't divorced yet, but his wife moved out in December 2023 and has since relocated to her own place in another town. He told me from the start that he wasn't divorced but would be. We started dating in September 2024, and things have been fantastic. We go out for dinner, dance twice a week, bike and hike together. We both own our homes, so we don't live together, but he comes over for dinner, we eat and watch TV, and then he goes home. The problem is, when

Grieving Mother 슬퍼하는 어머니

Dear Annie: My mom, "Janet," lost her husband -- my dad -- almost three years ago after 45 years of marriage. Their relationship was strong, full of love, laughter and quiet routines. His death was sudden, and it shattered her world. Since then, she's been living alone in the house they shared, and despite gentle encouragement, she refuses to engage with anyone outside of immediate family. She doesn't go to church anymore; she won't attend local senior or grief support groups; and she has no int

Owed Money 받을 돈

Dear Annie: I have a close friend I care about a lot, but there's something that's starting to get under my skin -- and I'm not sure if I should say something or let it slide. Whenever we go out -- whether it's lunch, drinks or concerts -- we usually agree to split the cost. But somehow, I always end up paying more. She's "forgotten her wallet," says she'll Venmo me later or offers to "get the next one," which never really happens. Most recently, we went out for dinner, and I covered the bill --

Medical Conditions Causing Personality Changes 질병으로 인한 성격 변화

Dear Annie: A few years ago, my husband -- always kind, patient and gentle throughout our nearly 40-year marriage -- began behaving in ways that shocked me. He became verbally cruel, aggressive, and would erupt in sudden fits of rage over seemingly nothing. It escalated to the point where he threw a plastic water bottle at me and threatened to hit me -- something entirely out of character. I took it seriously, had him arrested and pushed for a medical evaluation when he refused to seek help on h

My Best Friend Makes Me Feel Like Second Choice 절친이 저를 차선책 같은 기분이 들게 합니다

Dear Annie: I have had one of my friends since our freshman year of high school, and I have always considered her more of a sister than a friend. We have been through ups and downs and have always been there for each other. We have lived in separate cities since high school, but I recently moved to the same city she has lived in for the last couple of years. We now live within 10 minutes of each other, and I thought it would be great. Well, was I wrong! She has never had a boyfriend, but she met